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Time to Rest
Sometimes the best response to a difficult situation is simply to REST. By taking some intentional steps we can claim our emotions and ensure that we’re using the best coping strategies possible for both the short term situation and the long term consequences. The steps are easy:
- Relax: Claim your emotion and call a time-out. Physically step away. Take a short walk, text or call a trusted friend, take 20 deep breaths, move to a different room and stretch. It doesn’t have to be elaborate it just has to give you a chance to physically separate from the space you’re in.
- Evaluate: Look for the facts in your situation and identify how you’re responding to them. Remember the important first step to this is addressing facts. Once you commit to the facts of your circumstance you can begin to identify your emotional and physical reactions to them. Here’s an example: The fact is… I’m stuck in traffic with no way to get around it and I have an appointment in five minutes. My emotional response might be anger, frustration, sadness. My physical reaction might be a tightening of my hands on the steering wheel, rapid breathing, tensing of my leg muscles.
- Set an Intention: Create a short term and long-term plan of action to address the situation. Short term could be as simple as continuing your time out until you feel less anxious. Long term will include identifying a coping skill you already have or want to develop that you could employ when similar situations arise. Share your plan with a trusted friend, family member or colleague. Sometimes a second perspective makes all the difference.
- Take Action: Implement your plan and evaluate your outcome. What worked and what didn’t work? What will you do differently when faced with similar situations/emotions? Pat yourself on the back for taking action!
Sometimes the best way to move forward is to look behind. Answer these questions to explore how RESTing might look like for you!
- Think about a time in the recent past where’s you’ve found yourself stressed out in a challenging situation. Briefly describe what was happening:
- Share how you could have applied each step of REST to that situation. How would it have made things different?
- What situations do you find most challenging now?
Even under the best of circumstances, the only thing we’re ever really in control of is our response to the world around us. By engaging in REST, the hope is that a healthy response to your world, no matter how chaotic it might be, becomes standard practice for you. And remember, a pandemic is something new to all of us. There is no single right way to respond so give yourself permission to feel your emotions and make mistakes. Grieving is normal when a loss of any sort occurs. Together we can support each other as we create a new normal. But first…we must REST.
Adapted from Between the Sessions Resources 2019